The weight meant to bury you can become the resistance that strengthens you.

The same load can crush or strengthen depending on things that are not entirely in your control, including how long it lasts and who is helping you carry it. When there is enough support and enough time, resistance is what builds capacity, and people often come through carrying more than they could before. That is a real phenomenon and it is not automatic. It should never be used to argue that the weight was good for you.

If you are under something heavy right now, focus on what makes it survivable rather than what it might make of you. Ask who can take a portion of it and let them. The strengthening, if it comes, comes later and takes care of itself.