Even in the worst of what happens, people find something to hold, and that finding is real rather than sentimental. Nothing about it means the harm was worthwhile or arranged for your benefit, and the suffering is no smaller if you believe that. What is also true is that meaning gets made afterwards, by the people who lived it, out of material they never wanted. That making is one of the more remarkable things people do.
If you are in the middle of something dark, no reading of it is owed today. Later, if you want it, look for what you would keep rather than what it was for.