It is impossible to please all the world and one’s father.

Two audiences that both matter will eventually want different things from you, and no amount of cleverness satisfies both. The wider world rewards one kind of choice and the person closest to you expects another, and the attempt to keep everyone content usually produces a version of your life that suits nobody. At some point you have to decide whose disappointment you can live with.

Name the two claims currently pulling at you, and be honest about which you are actually going to honour. Then tell the other side plainly rather than managing them with half-measures, which costs more in the end.