The more honesty a man has, the less he affects the air of a saint.

Genuinely straight people rarely present themselves as good. They know exactly what they have wanted, refused and got away with, and that knowledge keeps them from posing. The visible display of virtue tends to come from somewhere else entirely, either from someone managing an impression or from someone who has not looked closely at themselves yet.

Watch how people talk about their own goodness, and give your trust to the ones who do not raise the subject. Then apply it to yourself: drop one sentence you use to signal that you are decent, and let the conduct stand unaccompanied.