Pride and weakness are Siamese twins.

— James Russell Lowell

REFLECTION

WHAT THIS MEANS

The loudest pride usually sits on top of something fragile. A person sure of what they can do has no particular need to announce it; the display tends to appear where the confidence is thin and needs propping. That is why pride reacts so badly to small slights: the slight lands on the weakness, not on the pride.

When you feel the urge to correct someone about your own standing, pause and look for what feels unsteady underneath. Usually it is one specific doubt. Addressing that doubt, by learning the thing or admitting you have not, does more than winning the exchange.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Which of your proudest stances protects something fragile underneath?

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