The virtue of a man ought to be measured not by his extraordinary exertions, but by his every-day conduct.

Character is what you do on the days nobody is watching or grading. Big gestures are cheap in a sense, because they arrive with an audience and a rush of feeling to carry them. How you speak to someone tired at the end of a long day is a better reading, since nothing is pushing you to do it well.

Pick one everyday behaviour and raise it slightly: how you answer messages, how you treat whoever serves you, how you speak about people who are not in the room. Do it for a fortnight without mentioning it. That is the level where change actually holds.