He mourns the dead who lives as they desire.

The truest form of remembering is in how you live afterwards. Somebody who loved you wanted things for you, and carrying those forward keeps more of them present than any amount of sorrow does. This is not a reason to hurry past the sorrow, which takes the time it takes. It is a quieter way of keeping someone.

Think of one thing the person wanted for you, in their own words if you can remember them. Do a small version of it this week, and you do not have to tell anyone why. Over years, that adds up to something that looks a lot like them still being here.