Respect yourself in private where nobody can reward the performance.

What you do when there is no audience is the honest version. Public standards can be maintained by reputation alone, but the things you do alone, how you speak to yourself, whether you keep the small promises, what you allow when no one would know, are held up only by what you actually believe about your own worth. That is why private conduct is the real measure.

Pick one thing you only do well when someone is watching, and do it well once with no one there. Make the bed, finish the last set, keep the standard on the piece of work nobody will inspect. The point is not the task. It is the message you send yourself about who you are when the room is empty.