Life is not an exact science, it is an art.

Living well is not a problem with a solved method. The same decision that was right for someone else at thirty can be wrong for you at forty, and the variables never hold still long enough to be measured. Treating your life as engineering produces a great deal of optimisation and a quiet sense that you are still doing it wrong.

Notice where you have been waiting for the correct answer before acting. Choose the version you can live with, watch what happens, then adjust. Artists work by making something and responding to what they made, which is a better model for most of what you are deciding.