If you cannot work with love but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work.

Work carried out in steady resentment corrodes the person doing it, and it generally shows in the work as well. That much is simply true. The advice attached to it assumes a freedom plenty of people do not have, because rent falls due and jobs are not lying around, and there is no shame whatsoever in staying.

If leaving is not available, look for what can be changed inside it: one task done with care, one relationship made civil, one boundary held. And if leaving is available and you have talked yourself out of it for years, notice that the talking is also a decision.