When everyone speeds up emotionally, slow down mentally.

When a room becomes emotionally fast, the pull is to match it, and matching it means thinking at the speed of the panic rather than the speed of the problem. Deliberately slowing your own thinking while everyone else accelerates is uncomfortable, since it can look like you are not taking it seriously, and it is usually what produces the useful contribution.

In the next heated situation, be the one who asks a slow question. What do we actually know. What happens if we wait an hour. The pace of your thinking does not have to match the pace of the room.