Who is wise in love, love most, say least.

Talking about a feeling and acting on it draw from the same account. Declarations are enjoyable, and they can quietly substitute for the smaller unannounced things that actually constitute caring for somebody: turning up, remembering, rearranging your week. People who say least are often carrying the most, which is why the loudest affection is not always the deepest.

Count what you have done for someone this month against what you have said. If the speech is running ahead of the actions, move one item from the first column into the second.