Calm enough to observe is calm enough to improve the odds.

Being settled enough to observe is already a practical advantage rather than merely a pleasant state. Observation gives you information, information gives you better choices, and better choices genuinely change how things turn out. The calm is not a way of accepting the outcome, it is a way of influencing it.

In a difficult stretch, make observation your first job before deciding anything. What is actually happening, who is involved, what has changed. Being able to do that at all puts you in a better position than most people in the same situation.