In time we hate that which we often fear.

Fear is uncomfortable to sit with, and hatred is more bearable, so one tends to turn into the other. Hating something gives you a position and a target, while being afraid of it leaves you exposed. Watch for that trade in yourself and you will find it often: the person whose opinion frightens you becomes contemptible, the task you dread becomes stupid. The contempt is doing a job the fear could not.

The next time a strong dislike appears quickly, ask what it would mean if the thing frightened you instead. Sit with that answer before acting. Fear you can name tends to stop needing a villain.