Wisdom has its root in goodness, not goodness its root in wisdom.

Sharpness about people and kindness toward them are not the same skill, and only one of them produces the other. A person who wishes others well ends up seeing them accurately, because there is no reason to distort what they see. A person who starts from cleverness alone tends to learn what can be used, which is a narrower kind of knowing that runs out. Care comes first, and the understanding grows on it.

Think of a situation you are trying to figure out about someone. Ask what you would notice if you wanted things to go well for them. That answer is usually the more accurate one.