Be sure enough of yourself that another person’s strength becomes useful information.

Another person’s ability is either a threat or a source of information, and which one it is depends entirely on your own footing. If you are not defending your position, you can study how they do it, ask them things, and get better. Insecurity converts a resource into a rival.

The next time someone outperforms you, ask them how they approached it before your feelings settle into resentment. Treat them as a source. You will learn more in that conversation than in a month of competing quietly.