Recovery begins when disappointment becomes information.

Disappointment starts as pure feeling, and while it stays that way it can only be endured. It becomes usable at the point where you can look at what happened and extract something specific: a wrong assumption, a missing skill, a bad fit. That conversion is what recovery actually consists of.

When you are ready, and not before, try writing one sentence about what you now know that you did not know before. Just one. That is often the moment the weight begins to shift.