One real measure of success: how many people call you when they need help, and how often you pick up.

Who reaches out to you in trouble is a fairly accurate report on your life. It measures whether people think you are capable, whether they think you are safe to ask, and whether you have been reliable before. Almost nothing else measures those three at once. Picking up is the other half, since a reputation for being reachable only survives while it stays true.

Notice who called you this year and who you called. If one list is much shorter, that is information rather than a verdict. Answer the next one properly, even when it is inconvenient.