Breaking a family cycle is quiet, lonely work. Your grandkids will call it the moment everything changed.

Being the person who does something differently in a family is slow and mostly unwitnessed. There is no announcement and often no thanks, because the people around you are living inside the old pattern and may not see what you are doing. The results turn up much later, in people you might never meet.

If that is you, find one person outside the family who understands what you are carrying. Keep the change small and repeatable rather than heroic. You are allowed to be tired and still be the one who changed it.