If the algorithm defined your idea of success, you might be chasing someone else’s highlight reel with your own life.

What you see repeatedly starts to feel like what is normal and what is worth wanting. A feed is not a survey of human lives, it is a selection of moments that performed well. Copy enough of it and you can spend years working hard toward a picture nobody actually lives inside.

Write down three things you want, then ask where each one came from. Keep the ones you wanted before you saw anybody else have them. For the others, at least know they are borrowed.