Lower your standards to get attention and you’ll get the kind of attention that matches.

Attention is not one thing, and different signals bring different people. What you put out acts as a filter, so the people who arrive are the ones interested in that particular signal. None of this means anyone deserves how they are treated. It just means the filter is worth choosing deliberately.

Ask what kind of person you actually want around, and what would make that person notice you. Then aim at those. Less attention from the right direction is worth more than a lot of it from the wrong one.