You get to choose the move. You don’t get to choose how it lands.

Effort and outcome are connected but not the same, and treating them as identical means judging yourself by things that were never yours. Other people’s reactions, timing, luck and circumstance all sit on the far side of the line. You can raise the odds and you cannot set the result. Most of the peace here comes from knowing which half was yours.

After something goes wrong, separate the two: was the decision reasonable with what you knew then, and was the outcome bad anyway? Those need different responses. Only one of them is a reason to change how you decide.