You’re allowed to have an opinion without polling the group chat first.

Checking what everyone thinks before deciding what you think feels like being careful and is mostly outsourcing. You end up with a position that is really an average of the loudest three people in a chat. Your own take, formed before the poll, is often more interesting and always more yours.

Decide one thing this week before you tell anyone, and notice the pull to check. You can still change your mind afterward, and it will actually be a change rather than a merge.