Surfers don’t control the wave. They commit to it once it’s theirs.

Surfers do not control when a wave comes, how big it is, or whether it closes out. What they control is committing once one is theirs, because the half-committed version is what gets people hurt. Conditions get handed to you, and the moment of going is the part that belongs to you.

Notice where you have been trying to steer the wave: other people’s decisions, timing, whether someone replies. Move that energy into being ready and into going fully once something real arrives. Half in is usually the worst available position.