Fitting in keeps you safe. It also keeps you forgettable.

Blending in is genuinely useful, which is exactly why it is so tempting. Nobody comes after you for matching, and there is real safety in being unremarkable in a room that punishes difference. The cost gets paid later and quietly, because whatever made you worth remembering tends to be the same part you filed down in order to fit.

You do not have to be different everywhere at once. Pick one place safe enough to try it, a group, a piece of work, a single afternoon, and let the real version turn up there.