You can stop keeping score. Heaven never opened a scoreboard with your name on it.

Keeping score feels responsible. You track who owes you, how many times you were the one who texted first, whether you have been good enough lately to deserve anything. The whole system runs on the idea that love gets earned in points, and grace refuses to work that way. There is no tally being kept on you, which means there is nothing to catch up on.

Find the scoreboard you are quietly running. It might be with a friend, a sibling, a coach, or with God. Give it one week off and notice what that frees up in you.