A friend who lends you their stuff without a lecture is handing you trust, not just a jacket.

Lending comes in two versions. One arrives with conditions, a reminder about last time and a request for a return date, and it communicates that you are a risk being managed. The other is a shrug and an object in your hands. The second one is a statement about what they think of you, and it is bigger than the object involved.

Return it early, clean, and in better shape than it left, which is how the statement gets confirmed. Then look at whether you lend that way, or attach a small speech to everything. Being easy to borrow from is a quiet kind of friendship most people underrate.