Gentle isn’t weak. Holding back when you could hit harder takes more muscle.

Restraint gets mistaken for having nothing to swing. Anyone who has had the perfect cutting line ready and not said it knows the opposite is true. Stopping takes more control than letting go, and people who never stop are not strong, they are unbraked. Force you choose not to use is still force you have.

Think of the last argument where you went one sentence too far. This week, when you feel that sentence loading, hold it for ten seconds. You can always say it later, and you will find that you almost never want to.