Flattering someone to get something is renting their good mood. The lease runs out fast.

LEADERSHIP

WHAT THIS MEANS

Praise handed out to get something works exactly once and then starts reading as a signal that you want a favor. People are quicker at spotting this than they get credit for, especially the ones who get flattered often. What you bought was a few minutes of goodwill, and after that every genuine compliment you ever give them arrives under suspicion. That is a steep price for a small ask.

Say the true version instead, and say it at a moment when you obviously want nothing. Then make the ask separately and plainly. People say yes to directness more than you expect.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Have you praised someone mainly because you wanted something?

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