When you’ve already won the argument, stop swinging. Nobody needs a victory lap.

LEADERSHIP

WHAT THIS MEANS

Once an argument is over, everything after is no longer about being right. The extra points, the final line, the one more example are about watching someone stay down, and whoever is on the other side stops processing your reasoning and starts processing how it felt. People forgive being wrong far more readily than being flattened. Winning too thoroughly is how you lose the next conversation before it starts.

When you feel the point land, let the silence sit there. Change the subject or say you see their side on one part. Leave them a way to stand up.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Do you keep arguing after the other person has conceded?

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