Instead of envying them, study them. Jealousy is just a lesson you’re refusing to take.

Envy points accurately at something you want and then stalls there, spending the energy on resentment instead of on the information. Underneath it is usually a fairly specific observation about a gap between what they can do and what you can. Turned around, that becomes a study guide. The feeling was never the problem, only where it gets aimed.

Pick the person who irritates you most by being good at something and work out exactly what they do differently. Their preparation, their habits, what they gave up for it. Ask them if you can, and notice that admiration and envy run on the same information.