Learn how each of your friends likes to be helped. Some want advice. Most just want you there.

Help given in the wrong shape does not land, no matter how sincere it is. Some people want options and a plan, some want you to sit there and say nothing useful, and giving one what the other needs can leave both of you feeling worse. It is not a mystery you have to solve alone, since most people will tell you if you ask.

Ask directly next time, before you start fixing. Do you want ideas, or do you want company. Remember the answers, because they are fairly stable, and being the friend who gets this right matters more than having advice.