People who value you should not need the threat of losing you to remember how.

There is a pattern where someone’s attention returns only when you begin to withdraw, and then fades once you are reassured. What that reveals is that the effort was responding to the risk of loss rather than to you. Living inside that cycle means your presence has to be repeatedly endangered to be valued. That is exhausting and it does not improve on its own.

Notice whether care in your relationships is steady or triggered by fear of losing you. Say plainly what consistent attention would look like. Then watch whether it appears without the threat, because that is the only meaningful answer.