The moments you’ll replay when you’re old are smaller than you think. A car ride. A late-night talk. A dumb inside joke.

The clips that come back later are almost never the big scheduled ones. A car ride with the radio on, a conversation at two in the morning, a joke nobody outside the room would follow. None of those announce themselves while they happen, which is exactly why they slip past your filter and stay.

Since you cannot tell which ones they will be, the only workable plan is to be present in the ordinary ones. Put the phone away in the car. Stay up the extra half hour when a conversation is going well.