Liking yourself and wanting to be better can live in the same person.

There is a widespread assumption that self-criticism is the engine, and that being content with yourself would make you stop trying. It usually runs the other way. People who are basically okay with themselves take feedback better, quit less, and try things in front of others, because a setback is not doubling as a ruling on their worth.

Hold both in one sentence this week: you are fine as you are, and you are working on something. No but in the middle of it. The work goes on perfectly well without the contempt attached.