A fence can feel like a cage or a playground boundary. Depends on which side the danger is.

The same limit can be protection or imprisonment, and nothing about the limit itself tells you which. What decides it is where the danger is: a barrier between you and a road is care, the same barrier between you and everything you want is a cage. People argue about rules as if rules had one nature. The honest question is always which side.

Take a rule you resent and ask what it is keeping apart. Sometimes the answer is you and something that would hurt you, and the resentment quietly drops. Sometimes it is you and your own life, and that is worth a conversation with whoever put it there.