Pick at a scab and it takes twice as long and leaves a mark. Some things heal best when you leave them alone.

Interference resets the clock. Something left alone closes on its own schedule, and every check restarts the same few days over again. The itch to look feels like doing something about it, and that is the trap, because doing something is the one move that is not helping.

Name what you keep picking at. Rereading the thread, reopening the argument at midnight, asking a fourth person what they think it meant. Give it a week with your hands off and see what is actually left.