The first offer feels like the only offer because it’s the only one you’ve seen so far.
STILLNESS
WHAT THIS MEANS
Your sense of what is normal gets built out of whatever you have seen so far, and a sample of one feels exactly like the whole market. The first number, the first offer, the first person who is interested: each arrives with no context, so your brain supplies the context by assuming this is how it goes.
Get a second data point before you decide anything. A second quote, a second school, a second opinion, a second conversation. You are not being difficult by looking. You are just building a comparison you did not have twenty minutes ago.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Did you compare anything before saying yes to that?
MORE IN PATIENCE & TIMING
- Patience isn’t sitting still. It’s doing the next small thing while the big thing takes its time.
- The first draft is you telling yourself the story. The fourth draft is you telling everyone else.
- The bus you chased and missed is gone. The next one is already on its way, and you’re out of breath for nothing.
Free, with nothing to buy inside it.