People reveal their priorities through what they repeatedly expect you to understand.

Look at what you are repeatedly asked to be understanding about, and you will see what someone has decided matters more than your comfort. Everyone has priorities and they are entitled to them, but the pattern of what is consistently excused shows what has been ranked below you. It is often clearer than anything said directly. People tell you their hierarchy by what they expect you to absorb.

List what you regularly forgive in a relationship. Ask whether the same allowance runs in the other direction. Reasonable relationships have understanding flowing both ways, and a one-directional pattern is worth naming.