More plants die from too much watering than from too little. Sometimes care means backing off.

Over-care is still care, and it still does damage. Anxious helping tends to be about the helper’s discomfort, so it gets applied constantly regardless of what the other thing needed, and a plant that has never been allowed to be slightly dry has no reason to grow roots. Backing off can be the more attentive move.

Ask before you add more. What would actually help, do you want ideas or company, is it all right if I just sit here. Then do only that, even when doing less feels like you are being a worse friend.