If you have to shrink to fit in a relationship, it’s the wrong size.

It usually happens gradually. You stop mentioning the thing you are into, you turn down how much you talk, you let a friendship slide because that was easier than the conversation. None of those feel like much on their own, and then one day you notice you are a smaller version of yourself around that person. The fit was wrong, not you.

Take stock of what you have quietly put away since this started, romantic or not. Pick one piece of it and bring it back out without making an announcement. How the other person handles that will tell you most of what you need to know.