Notice the places where your shoulders drop. Go there more often.

Your body registers things before you have words for them. There are rooms where your shoulders come down an inch, and rooms where they stay up all evening without you noticing. That signal is honest in a way your opinions are not, because it does not care who you are supposed to like or where you are supposed to want to be.

Spend a week paying attention to it. The kitchen at a certain friend’s house, the walk by the water, the back table at work, whatever it turns out to be. Then put more of those on the calendar on purpose instead of hoping you land there by accident.