Talk to yourself like someone you’re coaching, not someone you’re roasting.

The way you talk to yourself after a mistake decides what happens next. A coach names the error and gives you the next thing to try. Roasting names the error over and over in increasingly personal terms, until you are too flattened to attempt the next thing at all. Harsh feels serious, and it is mostly just slow.

After the next bad rep, say what a decent coach would say, in one sentence: here is what went wrong, here is what to do instead. Skip the part about what it means about you. Keep it short enough to say out loud, because that version actually gets used.