You don’t need the group chat’s permission to be upset about something.

Feelings do not get voted on. Somewhere along the way it starts to feel like a reaction only counts if other people agree it was reasonable, so the screenshot goes out, the replies come in, and the group decides how hurt you are allowed to be. You knew before you asked.

When something lands badly this week, sit with it for ten minutes before taking it anywhere. Put what bothered you into one sentence, just for yourself. If you still want to talk it through after that, pick one person who knows you rather than eleven who are bored.