Ask yourself what kind of friend you actually are, not the kind you’d describe in a bio.

Everyone carries a description of themselves as a friend, and it is usually generous and mostly untested. The real answer lives in specifics: who you texted back and who you left on read for four days, whose bad week you remembered and whose you did not. Those facts are not a verdict on your character. They are just a more accurate picture than the description.

Look at the last two weeks and pick one person you dropped without meaning to. Send the ordinary message, not the apology. Being a good friend is mostly a frequency, and frequency can change this week.