Freedom grows when fear of one outcome stops deciding everything.

One dominant fear can quietly organise an entire life. Every decision routes around it, and the avoidance becomes so habitual that it stops looking like fear and starts looking like preference. Freedom grows when that outcome, whatever it is, stops having a veto.

Name the outcome you are most arranging your life to avoid. Then ask honestly what would happen if it occurred. Usually it is survivable, and knowing that returns a lot of decisions to you.