You’re the only person you’ll spend every single minute of your life with. Make yourself decent company.

One relationship cannot be paused, and the tone inside it sets the weather for all the others. Most people speak to themselves in a voice they would never use on a friend, usually picked up somewhere without ever agreeing to it. That voice is a habit, and habits move, slowly, with attention.

Catch the harshest thing you say to yourself this week and ask whether you would say it out loud to somebody you like. Then try the sentence you would actually offer them. It feels fake at first and it works anyway.