Shoes that don’t fit anymore aren’t failures. They’re proof you grew.

Something no longer fitting is information about change, not a judgment on you. The same reading applies to a friend group that has gone quiet, a hobby that stopped catching, a version of yourself you can feel yourself leaving. People file all of that under failure when the more accurate word is simply after. Nothing went wrong, you moved.

Name one thing you have clearly outgrown and stop trying to force it back into shape. Say it plainly to yourself, and to anybody it affects. Then give the space it was taking up to whatever actually fits you now.