Loyalty to someone who wouldn’t cross the street for you isn’t loyalty. It’s a subscription you forgot to cancel.

Loyalty to somebody who would not put themselves out for you is a habit that keeps running long after the reason ended. It survives on history: they mattered once, so the arrangement continues, and nobody cancels it because cancelling feels like an accusation. Meanwhile you keep paying in attention, time and defense to an account that closed on their side a while ago. It was supposed to point both ways.

Ask the plain question: when did they last go out of their way for you. Not a grand thing, just an inconvenient one. You can step back without a scene and without deciding they are a bad person.