If a relationship only feels real when it’s posted, the likes are doing the loving.

Posting can be a nice byproduct of something good, and it turns into a problem when it becomes the proof. If things go quiet whenever nobody is watching, the attention has started doing work the two of you were supposed to be doing. That is easy to miss, because the reaction from outside is immediate and the private version is slow. You end up maintaining the look of something instead of the thing.

Count the last few good moments you actually had together and see how many happened off the record. Try a week with nothing posted. If it feels like the whole thing vanished, that is worth knowing now.